Sharing our burden


Life was so different since I got that call in Vietnam about my mother’s health… and I have not even shown my pictures to my lovely husband since I returned.

But today I looked at them…and spotted this one that I took the day before I got the news. Before it would have been just another picture, but given the context of my life the past few weeks, it got new meaning…. as life-changing events make you see things differently.

It reminded me of how we carry our heavy burden during a time like this while life around us carries on….

In fact …things around me whizz by at top speed, while I have felt a heaviness and have been moving at a slow pace.

We all grief differently, but I decided to share my load…. by sharing my pain, my photo memories of my mom and by blogging about her  passing away.

It is wonderful how each and every one of my friends responded and took that burden off my shoulders…by sharing my feelings, acknowledging my pain, even shedding tears for me, offering help and support, by listening to me and simply gave me the space to be who I am and to just make me aware of the fact that they are all there for me….

Imagine this woman’s load taken off her shoulders and be carried further by 97 strong people …. it almost starts to seem ridiculously light in that scenario…..which would totally allow her to start to focus on other things again and to be able to bend, stretch and reach out to others again. How much lighter my load became when almost a hundred friends each personally sent me a note, a mail, a facebook message, called, visited….some whom have never even met my mother…but they know me and they care….

I feel blessed beyond measure…

I want to thank each and every one who stood by me and my family.

I will miss my mother every day, but I feel every day how my spirit is lifting and how the people around me are helping me to carry on….without the load on my shoulders alone.

I feel inspired to start blogging again   – and that is a good sign.

I hope to write a few posts before the year ends…and I am looking forward to the New Year, hoping to bring you some great posts from all over about Life’s little details!




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  • Lee Faulkner says:

    Ilse….you have been a friend for a very long time and although we may not speak often, I often think of you, your strength and your humility. You have always inspired me to be better than I am.

    I too am going through a very hard time with my mother dying in a hospital. She has not passed yet, but we know it will not be long now. It is especially difficult because I cannot be with my immediate family (David and Oscar) during this Christmas period, while I am here in Canada dealing with my own family and all that needs to be done.

    But your words of what you went through, your family support and your friends support sometimes makes me realise that I too will get through this. I don’t think I am ready to do what you have done with remembering your mother. The lovely blog stuff and messages you have sent have been so telling of the kind of person you are.

    I am so glad to have you as a friend. You are an amazing person. I wish I could be like you. As long as I live I will never forget you, even if we never see each oter again. I hope that is not the case. But you never know!?!? In any case, I didn’t want to let so much time pass that I have never said these words to you.

    Take care of yourself. You are in a good place now. Or at least it sounds like it. I wish you peace. When this is all over, I hope we can hook up and talk.

    Love always.
    Lee xxx

  • Karlien says:

    When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.  ~Kahlil Gibran

    Sooo min wat dit kan beter maak….dink aan jou xx

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